Wednesday, December 31, 2008
My year in review
Monday, December 29, 2008
I'm So Excited
"TIME TO WRITE NEW!
No excuses! In one class period you’ll learn strategies to conquer procrastination and perfectionism, the times of the day when your energy is right for writing, how to use your intuition to make decisions and how to say “No!” This class is taught by a certified creativity coach and published author of SECRETS FROM A CREATIVITY COACH."
The second one in March is:
"SELF DISCOVERY THROUGH WRITING NEW!
Every person has defining moments in their life, moments of sadness, happiness, trauma and accomplishments. By breaking your life down into age-related categories and writing about the defining moments in various stages of your life, you can begin to get a greater sense of who you are – how you arrived there, where you are going, and why you act/react the way you do. In this class, you’ll write about your life changing experiences in early adolescent, young adulthood, mid-life and, or, senior years."
Then, at the prompting of my therapist guy I "may" join a writers group that critiques your writing. I'm not sure about that as I don't really have too much to share but I'll try. It's a rather scary thing to share although I do share here on my blog it is somehow different. This would be in person, eye to eye, oooo...chills. Big step for me but I'll give it a whirl.
So this means that I will be pretty busy with art classes, writing, critiquing, bowling, personal trainer and I guess I'll throw a little work in there. I am so in need of trying to find me again. I have felt so swallowed up in our business, raising our family and all that is The Hubby that I have lost what I need to have a passion for. It is my turn. 2009 is for Jill!
Sunday, December 28, 2008
A Change of Scenery
I know in my last post I said I was not going to venture out of the house, I lied. The Hubby called from the office (yes he works on weekends) and wanted to go to see The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. I found a time and so we went. The movie was for 3:25 but of course he had to make a pit stop first. We needed a new battery for the UPS system at the office for our security cameras and the place closed at 6. He came home to pick me up for the movie and the errand at 2:53 p.m. See the problem arising. I knew it. Well, we flew out to 51st & Memorial to Interstate Battery and finally left there at 3:13 for a 3:25 movie on the day after Christmas to 41st & Yale. Yeah, well we got into a bursting full parking lot at 3:24, found a parking space and then got into a massive line, in the cold to get tickets. I looked at the screen and the 3:25 start time flashed SOLD OUT. The next movie was 4:25 so we opted to go ahead and get tickets for the next one and wait. We went inside and bought popcorn and drinks and I saw that there was already a line for the movie. He was amazed. (He doesn't go to the movies much.) While in the food line the line dispersed into the theatre and we soon followed. We got good seats and sat to eat popcorn and watch the scroll ads over and over again. The Hubby decided to get up and take his jacket off but caught the lid of his Coke and pulled it right out of the chair cubby and onto the floor. #$^^#(***#^ Oops...Nearly the whole drink spilled on the floor. Oh well, $20 down the drain, literally. The movie finally started and we settled back. I'm not sure I like the movie. It was interesting and the special effects on yummy Brad were pretty cool, but the movie was very long. I thought they could have shortened it somewhat. Really, I don't think I would even watch it again on the TV, except to see yummy Brad again in his young stage.
The movie ended at about 7:30 so of course I was hungry. We went to Rick's American Cafe that has moved to 31st & Harvard, close to home. Nice to have a really nice restaurant close to home. I had a seafood pasta thing with mussels, shrimp, crab and scallops. I had mussels in New York the first time in October on our trip and boy still delicious. The Hubby had a huge steak, Cajun rubbed. We were stuffed. It was a nice date night with The Hubby.
Saturday, December 27, 2008
The Wind Blows
Today I plan on spending the day like yesterday...doing absolutely NOTHING! Since I'm trying to get better from this stupid virus I am taking full advantage of resting. The antibiotic is working pretty quickly on this round and hopefully after this I will be finally over it all. A friend had MRSA several years ago and although it is always with you she has not had another outbreak. She was so bad that they thought she might have to have chemotherapy. YIKES! I must get well, I must get well, I must get well. I think if I can stay well for the next few months, no colds or sore throats that I will be home free. I just have to build up immunities. I'm not going out anyway because the virus has popped up on my face and doesn't look real pretty.
Well, I guess I need to get to the reading and resting. Maybe a shower, journal, read and then sleep a little today. I might have to cook later but I already did a wonderful roast and veggies last night, so I've prepared them that it will probably be pizza tonight.
Friday, December 26, 2008
The Day After
This morning unfortunately I awoke with my chin swelled and again I am dealing with the stupid MRSA virus. I decided to refill the antibiotic that I had left and have another go around with it. I want my body to heal on it's own but probably not going to happen. It needs a boost since I can't get over the head cold that has lodged in my ears. Since it has appeared on my face I will stay in for the weekend and not venture out. It also tends to leave somewhat of a scar, a discoloration for awhile. I just want to get well.
On to better things. Here are some pic's of the Christmas we celebrated with my family. My Daddy, brother and his family and sister and her family. It was a very nice day but poor Sis was sick too. We changed it up and shared in a brunch. I did egg casseroles, Sis did sausage, bacon, gravy and biscuits and the Bro brought homemade cinnamon rolls (his daughter made) like Momma used to make. Turned out to be a great day.
DaddyToo much good cheer!Bro and nephew trying to figure out the erector setSis and Ben
Thursday, December 25, 2008
The eve of Christmas eve we spent the evening at the MIL's and had a wonderful dinner at her retirement community. She reserved a private room and we filled the table to the max. When we had finished a wonderful dinner we retired to her apartment and then being the hostess with the mostess she set out a punch bowl with cookies and chocolate candy. WOW! She just couldn't help herself. She loves to entertain and does it well. The Christmas eve bash used to be at her house and everybody used to drop in to partake of the party of the year. Now she is relegated to a punch bowl and plate of cookies. I think she is sad about that. Anyway it was a nice evening and we got to see one of the great nieces open her little gifts. She is just a precious little thing. She got a stroller with a baby and we gave her a Tinkerbell doll because that is what her father calls her.
Last night we spent at the nephews for Christmas Eve and the great nephew. Christmas is definitely for the children. He was so very excited and tore into packages just to get the paper off, not caring what was inside. It was a quiet evening as most of the family was home sick. This season for head colds has taken its toll this year. I'm still fighting the effects of the one I had 3 weeks ago.
Today we go to my Sis and celebrate with my family. B&B2 went to his family but will be back to join us in a "new" tradition of brunch.
Oops...better get in the shower and get the egg casseroles in the oven.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Twas the Night Before Christmas (70's style)
Twas the night before Christmas
And all through the pad
Baby, nothing was happenin’
Real quitesville, Dad!
There were ornaments strung round the espresso bar
And one dangled from Arthur (like that’s my guitar!)
And our stockings were hung, because, man, like I mean
We hoped Nicky Baby would soon make the scene.
Mother turned down the sound on the hi-fi and then
She curled upon the floor with a volume of Zen
And the pad was real quiet and peaceful and still-
Then suddenly Bang, it was gangbusterville!
Man, from way out in space came a powerful roar
That was so loud it blasted us right from the floor
I lost all my cool and my console slammed shut!
I was so bugged I dropped my best stereo cut.
Like I couldn’t feature what sounded that way
I forgot my turtleneck, shades and beret
And I ran to the window (my knees were both quakin)
Like I stuck my head out to observe what was shakin.
I looked up in the sky and what scene did I dig
But eight wild baby elks and a chrome-plated rig
A fat little pilot with a Gabby Hayes beard
Wow! Like, man, it was weird!!
His frame was all covered with red and white fur
And I thought that he looked like a swing’n Ben Hur
But the fat man was wailin and I don’t mean maybe,
So I knew in a flash he must be Nicky Baby.
This gig behind schedule, I heard him explain
Then he called all his elks by each of their names-
Go Ringo! Go Tonto! Go Flash and Saber!Go Batman! Go Bogie! Go Mutt’n Jeff too!
Then down they all pranced-seven tons on the roof
And it looked like a discotheque out on my roof!
Nickey made for the chimney and flashed a big grin
Yelled, “Geronimo baby!”
And pow! He fell in
When he jumped from the fireplace in a big cloud of dust
His grab bag was so stuffed I thought it would bust!
Then, man, like I flipped when he opened that sack
And said, “look what I’m fix’n to lay on you, Jack!
He had enough equipment to stock a whole band
A solid gold trumpet and a cool baby grand!
And then Nickey said, “Cool it! Like baby that’s it”The sun’s coming up and this cat’s got to split.
So he filled up our socks and we thanked him a lot
Then he uttered “Shazam!” And took off like a shot.
He jumped into the fireplace, gave out a loud whistle
And blasted straight up, like a solid-fuel missle
Then he hopped in his buggy and we heard him shout“Up, up and away” and he really moved out!
As he said into orbit - it was most out of sight“Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night.”
Monday, December 22, 2008
I'm supposed to bring an appetizer dish for Christmas eve and egg casseroles for Christmas brunch at my sisters. The egg casseroles need to be made the night before and so do a couple of appetizers I need to make. I'm going to make a hot artichoke dip that is to die for. I also got another recipe from a friend that is a sandwich that is put together and marinated overnight then heated in the overn...so very yummy. I'll try to have the recipes here later. Goodness I'm going to be busy.
Uh oh now The Hubby is letting A and her friend J watch his practice dance videos...now I am going to bed and bury my head. If I have to listen to that song again I'm going to SCREAM!!!!!
Sunday, December 21, 2008
The Party is Over.
Unfortunately, I didn't get a whole lot of pics as the guests began arriving and I misplaced my camera. Oh well...the caterer is Joshua Vitt. VITTERS N-CREDIBLE EDIBLES
TULSA, OK US
Saturday, December 20, 2008
(Tomorrow A comes home!!!!! Can't wait to see her. It's been 5 months since her beautiful smile graced out presence. I will have both my girls, my babies, here tomorrow!)
Thursday, December 18, 2008
This and That
I just received another email from the niece in preparation for Christmas eve for The Hubby's side of the family. A couple of days ago there was a flurry of emails from the SIL and my Sis on my side of the family for Christmas day. Whew, trying to get it all together and make it work is, well, work. It starts really getting tough when the children grow up, get married and then you have to contend with more family. Then they start having their children and they want to make their own kind of Christmas traditions and memories for their own children. You have to give up what you have known and expected of your customs and traditions to make way for the others to make their own. Our oldest is now married and I know that she and and her guy, B2 will need to go to his family. Next year the youngest, in California will probably not be home for Christmas and that is okay. I know how it is. My side of the family has had a tradition for Christmas eve since I was a child but I don't participate with it anymore (can't really stand some of the cousins), instead I opted to be a part of The Hubby's family Christmas eve scene which has evolved over the years. It is just part of life.
Last night The Hubby and I went to our banks Holiday party for about 700! Yikes, so many people. It was fun to schmooze with "people". I had a couple of watered down drinks and was supposed to drive to a girls party (old Jazzercise people) but opted to go home and let a little of the buzz of the drinks (and I mean just a little) make me comfy in front of the TV. I just didn't want to drive 20 minutes for a girls night. The Hubby had a group dance lesson in which the daughter, B likes to go with him. Totally fine with me. He tried to get me to go, but NO WAY! Tonight we go to yet another Christmas party at Sin & Bare's, that should be a real drinking bash (oh my). I have to go easy though because we are not at the lake where we can hop on a golf cart and drive home and besides, tomorrow I have to do payroll with Christmas bonuses. Have to have my thinking head to calculate stuff. Saturday is B's graduation party here with about 50 people in attendance. I forgot to get wine and pop so that is my mission today, after workout. The food is taken care of by her friend who is a caterer. He does sushi! YIPPEE! We will have other food but it will be a real fun different kind of party. Then on Sunday we can relax and enjoy having A home as she will arrive that evening.
Just lots and lots of stuff to do. Oh and I forgot we have to have 3 ornaments for the Christmas eve family gift exchange so it is back to the store for more of those or just take some off of my very crowded tree!
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
I haven't worked out all week and that is making me a little crazy. You know after over 10 years of making a habit, of getting up at 5 every morning and hitting the Jazzercise floor, I can say that can break a habit in a matter of days. I think that the time of year plays a huge role in how I'm feeling about this though. I HATE the winter. I HATE the cold. I HATE the look of the trees and the sky. I sit her in my chair pecking away at these keys and occasionally look out my window at the sticks in the gray sky and it saddens me. The only thing that keeps me going is that on the 22 or 23 of this month is the Winter Solstice and that means the days will begin to start getting longer and spring will be just around the corner. But that also means that we still have to contend with January and February. Oh my goodness I hate the drabness of the winter days and the gray that surrounds us now.
OOPS....the phone is ringing...should I answer it...it might be The Hubby and he has a way of messing up my day................I was right! It was "HIM" and yes indeed my day has been cut short. It is good, in a way but DAMMIT! Our architect is going to be here at the house with interior plans for our master bathroom remodel/add-on at 2 pm. That means I have to get cracking on the fruitcake and then have a shower and get dolled up as we have a function at our bank at 5 tonight. Well, I gotta roll....Toodles...
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
What, can you say that again, I can't hear you!
Today is the beginning of a very busy time for us. Yesterday I finished paying bills for the year at the office and personally and then came home to more in the mail. Well, I'll finish, again, today. This is also the last week for payroll so The Hubby and I have to discuss bonuses for the guys. We have a lot to do at the office to wrap up the year. We also closed on the new property and that has been lots of phone calls to utilities, insurance, just people. We've started moving in the overflow from our other shop but the guy we bought it from hasn't moved out yet. And to add to this, the other guy is going to rent the building we bought last year from us. So he is moving out and in and we are moving out and in. It's getting a little to crazy for me so I only want The Hubby to fill me in on stuff when it is absolutely necessary that I need to know. All this stuff at Christmas has me shaking my head. It's no wonder I've been sick.
My most important thing this week is my next appointment with the therapist. It's funny that this week I've been too busy and sick to be too depressed, which is a good thing. Now, see with that said I don't feel that the therapist is necessary but sure as I have some time on my hands I'm get down again so with that said I'll continue. It can only be a good thing for me. Just one session has given me some food for thought.
I was planning on doing some baking this week but just have not had the time. I need to make my fruitcake but that would mean having to visit the grocery store for some butter and eggs and I just don't know if I want to go there again. Yikes the people. The intensity of people banging shopping carts around for the Christmas holidays is intensified by the icy weather. It is like the sky is falling.
Last night and tonight we are fairly low key but the rest of the week is a whir. Tomorrow night is a holiday party at our bank. Thursday night is a holiday party at a friends house. Friday night is the Peter Mayer concert and dinner with friends. (Peter Mayer also tours with Jimmy Buffet.) Then Saturday is the day of B's graduation party here at the house. We have a caterer and about 50 guests showing up. Today my cleaning lady will be here to spruce up the house so that will be taken care of. Oh and then Sunday A comes home!!!!! I can't wait to see her. It has been since August since she was here.
I know this entry is a disjointed. Maybe the next one my mind will be a little more, well, a little more.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Kirk of the Hills
Stars and Promises 2008
Friday, December 19, 2008
Kirk of the Hills
4102 E. 6ast Street
Tulsa, OK 74136
tickets: $10.00 / $5.00 college students
$40 max for family
Friday, December 12, 2008
Another go around
Today is my first session with the therapist and I'm getting rather excited about it. I hope this isn't just a waste of time. Sometimes I think I'm just blowing it all out of proportion and that I'm doing just fine, like today, then there are days when I'm really down in the dumps. We'll just see today.
Okay now back to the title of this entry. I have yet AGAIN had another go around with the damned staff infection. I'm not sure and I have not been to the doctor but it has all the ear markings of previous occurrences. Although this one is very tiny and already healing. It was on the side of my round belly and the other was on my chin. As I said though I have been very vigilant with them and they are thank goodness healing well and quickly so maybe I'm back to myself. I hope. I'm really tired of being scared of this stuff. It makes my stomach stay in knots.
Well, it is 5:30 a.m. and I'm trying to do this entry in the time I have today as it maybe the only time I have. I'm off to Jazzercise and to begin Friday. Toodles all and I'll report back how the session went.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Signed, Sealed and Delivered
First, we finally signed on the dotted line for the commercial property. I don't feel just real good about the deal because even though we have the keys and a signed deal the "previous" owner is still on the property but should be out by the end of the week. And, to top off the whole thing The Hubby has possibly offered one of our other properties for him to rent from us. I kind of don't have a good feeling about this guy and I have stated my concerns but not sure if it will be heeded.
Last night we went out to dinner with two couples we are friends with at the lake. They came to our house first for drinks. We then went to Lucky's for a wonderful dinner and wonderful chatter and laughter. It was a very nice evening and it really pushed me to get the house in better order, especially my very messy room.
Today was our company party. The Hubby always wants to wait until the very last minute to send out the invites via email or fax and some phone calls. So today is Wednesday and he said to sent them out on Monday. Well, that strategy did not play well this time. We had so much less people than before and lots of food leftover. He was pretty sad that it turned out that way. He said that this may be the last year and that is just fine with me although I told him that we need to at least have a party for our employees. Oh well, at least we are done with it for another year and can deal with it next year.
So we had the party, closing and then I had to rush off to bowling. When I was through and coming in the house The Hubby was leaving for his group dance lesson. Oh and I am not his partner anymore,at least for awhile. He has found another willing guinea pig to take my place, our daughter B. Yippee!!! She goes with him to the private lesson too. Double Yippee!!!
Three nights in a row of not cooking dinner. Monday he went for Jamils, last night was dinner at Lucky's and tonight was leftover beans and cornbread. I heated up my dinner and got a Diet Pepsi out of the little refrigerator in the garage and as I was heading to the kitchen sink and twisting the top off the bottle it exploded fizzy Diet Pepsi in my face, on my arms, all over the floor and cabinet doors. Well, the thing was nearly frozen. Yup, I knew what had happened. The Hubby had cooked all that brisket and ribs for the company party and our refrigerators were full but needed to cool down the meat pretty quick. He had turned the little fridge to maximum so all, and I mean ALL my Diet Pepsi's were frozen. Yeah he was in trouble as I was washing sticky stuff off of my cheek. Yuck.
Tomorrow night is another Christmas open house party at our financial advisers office and then on Friday we are off to see Cirque Du Soliel with B&B. Then Saturday is a Christmas luncheon at the lake and Sunday I'm supposed to have 7 dozen cookies for a cookie exchange. Can you guess which one I have already begged off on, the cookie exchange. Next week is even busier with Tuesday - Friday booked solid. I still have one more present to get and I almost forgot that my niece's birthday is the 17th....oh my goodness this month is going to be an absolute blur.
And for those who have following my saddness, I have made an appointment with a therapist for Friday. Maybe he can give me some perspective on my sadness. Thanks everyone.
Monday, December 08, 2008
All of a sudden she said, "We gotta go." So hopping in her car, I was taken to a destination unknown. (The whole drive there was a conversation on her third child.) A few minutes later we arrived at the movie theater. Ah...a movie. We got in line and she asked which movie I thought we were going to see. I looked at the marque and guessed Goonies. She smiled widely. The Goonies movie is one of my all time favorite movies and I have never seen it on the big screen so I was surprised it was on. The theater is running classic movies.
After the movie we had a nice 10 minute drive home talking about just stuff. When we pulled in the drive, I thought she would come in to visit or just sit in the car and talk, but she pretty much told me I needed to hop out so she could pick up her youngest at the airport. So the evening spent with my friend, which I have not had an extended conversation with since August, consisted of total conversation time of about 20 minutes, most of which was about her children.
Sorry had to get that off my chest. Although the thought about going to the movie was awesome. Am I being a petty nasty little friend. I feel like I am.
Today we were supposed to close on the new property. We were supposed to close last Monday. Both days we have not closed on the property and I don't know if it will even happen. I think we are getting the run around and now the words "my attorney" have been tossed in the ring. The guy we have a contract with is in the middle of a divorce and the property is mortgaged, well, apparently the soon to be ex-father-in-law bought the mortgage and is dangling it over the poor guys head and is saying that the pay-off is more than was stated. EGADS....we are caught in the middle of a stupid divorce of which the in-laws are involved. The Hubby is really sad. He has been so excited about possibly moving the business there and expanding.
Now to a very sad phone call. This morning at the office I heard my cell phone ring in the front office and B answered it. I heard her say, "Papa, what's wrong." It was my Daddy, her Papa. I rounded the doorway and saw tears welling up in B's eyes. I was terrified. It was bad but not as bad as I thought. She handed me the phone and whispered that it was Peaches, his cat. Daddy's little devil cat Peaches.
I took the phone and Daddy was crying. He just had to have her put to sleep and it was crushing him. I knew she had not been well but had no idea it was quite that bad. He was sobbing and said it was like losing Momma all over again. You see Peaches was Momma's cat, but Peaches and Daddy had bonded since Momma died and it was sort of like losing Momma again for him. Poor guy. On top of that my Daddy has never, I repeat NEVER had to make the decision of euthanizing an animal, a pet. Momma had always made that decision. Hell, in fact I had to physically take his suffering, dying dog out of his arms to have put down because he just could not do it. I feel so bad for him because now he is truly alone in that house. That cat was his company, his friend. I'm sure he is crying tonight. This has also been a blow to me. When Daddy said it was like losing Momma all over again I was immediately taken to a real low. As I have written before I'm still dealing with the loss of my Momma and my best friend Gail, along with the death of our dog in the midst of it all, nearly 3 years later. I've been trying to make a decision to see a counselor, a therapist as I'm still sad. So this morning just took me back down again.
Sunday, December 07, 2008
- Putting up Christmas
- Cleaning out the bird cages
- Putting my clothes away from two laundry days ago and do more laundry
- Wrap presents
That doesn't seem like a lot but as in the previous post it took me all day yesterday to put up Christmas, but it is done. This morning I got the bird cages cleaned out and this afternoon I have wrapped all the presents, at least all that I have. I have one more to buy and a few more to arrive in the mail. The clothes stuff will have to wait, as it always does because I am out of steam. Besides my friend C just called and told me she is picking me up at 7 for my Christmas present and I want to read some blogs and take a little nap. I feel I have accomplished quite a bit this weekend. The Hubby has been busy outside with the lights on the house and smoking briskets and ribs for our company party on Wednesday. Don't worry, he likes to cook ahead so it is easy to slice then he reheats. Works really well.
Saturday, December 06, 2008
O Christmas Tree, O Christmas Tree
I'm pretty pleased with getting it all up today buy my aching feet and back!
Friday, December 05, 2008
The Evolution of the faces of "Jill"
Our engagement picture (before kiddos changed my body forever.)
Summer of 2006. My chins and the roundness of this picture made me HATE to have my pictures taken.